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2019年11月12日

爱那些唐’t Love You

最近15年,我住在城市’我们一直在沉默地注视着公众对基督徒的看法已从宽容,无情和彻底的歧视转变。我也活着并呼吸,就像每个人刚收到同样的坏消息之后,房间里的东西沉重一样。它徘徊并与您同坐,就像不受欢迎的第三轮一样。

我从圣经学校毕业后就搬到这里继续大学学习,并记得在城市结交新朋友,各种宗教和哲学背景以及性取向等时的特殊信心。’d遇到一个在教堂里跑得不好的人,一个基督徒家庭成员或密友,我会感觉到-那看不见的第三轮。他们会紧张或迅速确认,“哦基督徒吧?” And I’d注意停顿,肢体语言或表情变化。但是,这是很少见的经历,并且经常导致人们对我们各自的经历(宗教的好坏)进行一次真正的交谈。

现在快进到2019年。我很幸运仍然称自己为基督徒,但也可以将母亲,伴侣和全职社交媒体影响者加入简历。我在这个平台上写博客已有将近6年了,在过去的三年中,我一直很乐意分享我对耶稣基督的精神之旅和个人信仰。

我希望能再分享一些我的保守观点(以及相当不受欢迎的观点)以及它们对我的整体参与度的影响。今天’s post is about a specific and recent interaction that will highlight the disproportion public-support of online bullying and discrimination against Christians. And what’s more, the 事实 that many young Christians don’t seem to know what to do with it. So on with it then. My story begins this last Friday…

在美好的一天,我会醒来并阅读我的圣经(灵修篇),然后花些时间祈祷,然后准备。这就是我星期五开始的方式。


从那里开始,我的一天照常进行。在去约会之前,我在学校放下了女孩,然后开始准备我当天的第一条Instagram帖子,然后才发现了六个令人震惊的故事标签。有人拍摄了我页面的屏幕截图,并写了粗体字,贬低了他们的评论,嘲笑我的基督教信仰,并呼吁其他人撤消对我的Lavenda的壁橱帐户,我的知情母亲帐户以及路加的帐户的支持。

我花了几分钟查看所有这些内容,总共获得了6到7张屏幕截图,将我和卢克描述为``bigots''和``transphobic''。 (这些是他们的确切用语。)

他们主张卢克的政治观点为人身冒犯,而我选择他为合伙人则提出冒犯,呼吁其他人“停止追随这种仇恨”,同时一再贬低我的基督教信仰。

我的第一个直觉是向此人发送一条消息,让他们知道他们肯定错了,我绝不会向任何人发动仇恨消息。曾经我从来没有减少对同胞的重视,这绝对不是我在学习圣经时学到的东西。所以我给这个人发了消息,并说了很多。我没有为自己辩护,没有进行任何报复,而是表示歉意和同情。

他们的回应阻止了进一步的对话。有时人们太生气或太受伤而无法进行诚实的对话。也许那从来不是他们的初衷。 WHO’要说吗?而且,如上所述,这肯定不是我第一次遇到这种情况。我了解这种人的恶意会被误导。虽然他们最初的意图是保护他们认为被冤those的人的权利,但扔石头的工具却受到他们指责我的手段和行动的驱使,包括仇恨和可容忍的不容忍行为。现在,由于公众普遍反对保守的基督教信仰,他们很可能不会以这种方式看待这种感觉,因此有理由采用这些策略。

我想解决这个特殊的交互有两个原因:

首先,因为一两年前,我不会耐心或仁慈地回应,更重要的是,因为在星期五,我仍然不想这样做。做正确的事很难,尤其是当我的自尊心或自我与它有任何关系时。

成为一名真正的基督徒,这是一个挑战,要体现基督对信仰,希望和爱的信息。

在完全透明的情况下,我不得不大停顿一下。我必须祈祷,与朋友聊天,然后再祈祷。谢天谢地,上帝是忠实的,他的声音足够大,我可以听到:

“ 不要用邪恶来偿还邪恶,也不要用侮辱来侮辱。相反,用祝福报答邪恶,因为为此您被叫来可以继承祝福。”彼得前书3:9

其次,因为基督徒应该明白,分享一个人不仅遭受迫害,这是不可避免的。’信仰,但这是耶稣本人在新约圣经中一再表达的应许。分享全真相不会让您更讨人喜欢,也不会让您更受欢迎,也肯定不会赢得最多的朋友。

我不确定我们的信仰是否会过得“舒适”,以至于我们遇到的每个人都觉得我们完全可以接受和容忍。借此,我主要是要说基督呼召我们说话,无论政治气氛,社会规范或当前文化如何,都要诚实地走。如果我们发现自己被每个人完全接受和爱戴,那么我们是在寻求上帝的认可还是对周围人的认可可能会令人怀疑。

这将我带到了我的第三个也是最重要的一点。您必须与周围的每个人分享自己的信念和光明。它应该未经过滤,纯净而真实。您绝对不能屈服于同伴压力和/或社会压力,即使是在方式的测试中也是如此。现在最酷的事情是简单地说:“你有你的真理,我有我的。”与基督完全矛盾’消息和定义上的矛盾。如果你的真相被承认为“fact” as in 1+1=2, then my truth of 1+2=2 cannot also be true. It is in 事实, impossible for two “One True Gods”共存。不仅如此,基督还说,我们应该以自己的祝福“当其他人对您进行亵渎和迫害并以各种邪恶手段对您发动各种邪恶时,我们自己”。然后他说,“去做万国的门徒,奉父,子,圣灵的名给他们施洗,教他们遵守我所吩咐的一切。”马太福音28:19-20

他没有’t say to go out and water down his message. 他没有’t instruct us to make no offense, or make sure everyone likes you. He says to make things 对 as far is it is within your power, while speaking and living the gospel.

我们将保持谦卑的缔造和平者和所有人的情人。但是,对别人的爱并不意味着赞同或相信他们在做什么。“right”.

2020年,我将继续养育三个年轻女孩进入这个世界。他们将面对与我今天在这里和其他人分享的非常相似的人和环境。如果我们看到公众支持这样的人,以欺负,羞辱和嘲笑基督徒的方式简单表达自己的信仰,那么下一代将会面对什么?我们如何在爱情中建立他们,同时为未来武装真理?

就个人而言,我对这个词中的每个可能的问题都感到安慰和放松。我计划招募那些热爱他人的小勇士,他们像光明的灯塔一样,以善良的心和生活方式脱颖而出,它们反映出只有上帝才能提供的谦卑,服务和纯洁的欢乐。

“这就是为什么为了基督的缘故,我对软弱,侮辱,困苦,迫害和困难感到高兴。因为当我虚弱的时候,我就会坚强。”

2哥林多前书12:10

“这样,如果你们彼此相爱,所有人就会知道你是我的门徒。”约翰福音13:35

 

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